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Nov 09 2016

Do You Promise to Keep Her Gluten-, Corn-, and Diary-Free for as Long as You Both Shall Live?

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You may kiss the bride! Photo courtesy of

Our First Gluten-Free Couple Gets Married!

Think that it’s impossible to find the gluten-free love of your life? Dale Graff and Pia Strobel are a gluten-free couple that prove that love can transcend any distance and eating restrictions! Last year, we told you the story of Dale, who had trouble finding love in his small town of 40,000 in Montana. Dale, who has been living with celiac disease for almost ten years, was skeptical when he signed up to However, it wasn’t too long before he received a message from Pia, who lived over 2,300 miles away in Connecticut.

What can we say! Love was in the air, and less than a year later, Pia was packing her bags and heading to Montana to live with Dale.

Dale and Pia Tie the Knot

On August 26, 2016, the happy, gluten-free couple bound their lives together forever in matrimony. We were so thrilled that we were invited to the beautiful ceremony! The wedding took place at a secluded cabin in the middle of the Montana forest. As two children played the violin, Pia walked through the tall grasses, toward Dale with a big smile on her face. In a solemn voice, the minister said, “Dale, will you honor and keep her gluten-, corn-, and dairy-free for as long as you both shall live?” The crowd chuckled as Dale gave an enthusiastic “Yes!”

“Pia, will you honor and keep him gluten-, and diary-free as long as you both shall live?”

Gazing into Dale’s eyes, Pia said, “Yes.”

When the couple kissed, the crowd of family and close friends cheered. Then it was time to eat, drink, toast, and party! We all enjoyed the gluten-free and diary-free dinner, and the delicious gluten-free and diary-free cake was to die for! As the campfire crackled and popped, we danced throughout the night, swept away on the powerful currents of love.

Never Give Up On Love

Finding true love may seem nearly impossible, even on a good day. If you are living the gluten-free lifestyle, you may think that there is no one in the world who will understand, support, and appreciate you and your lifestyle habits. Pia and Dale had to look across the entire United States to find their match, but they did it, and you can too! Dale and Pia’s story is a reminder to never give up on love and to never stop looking.

One way to increase your chances of finding someone who shares your gluten-free lifestyle is to sign up for Here, you can find people who really do understand you and who are looking for love, too. Sign up today. Maybe your future bride or groom is already here, waiting for you.

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Nov 08 2016

Need Help Getting Through the Holidays Gluten-Free? Hang Out with More Gluten-Free People

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Want to make it through the holidays gluten-free? Your gluten-free friends can help!

It can be hard to stick to gluten-free holidays. Mmmmmm stuffing and fluffy rolls, and pumpkin pie over Thanksgiving. Gingerbread cookies in the breakroom at work. Homemade lasagna at your boss’s holiday party. The holidays have a way of throwing us off our game. Not only are we surrounded by more gluten-free food than ever, but the holidays are often a time when we find ourselves attending many different parties and dinners where we have no control over what food is served. Even the staunchest gluten-free eater can be tempted to grab a serving of that amazing looking lasagna, despite the uncomfortable consequences that are sure to follow.

How can we gluten-free eaters possibly survive the holidays? You’ve probably already learned the trick of keeping a few of your favorite gluten-free snacks in your pocket so that you always have something to munch on if you find yourself at a gathering with no gluten-free options. You may even be adept at politely mentioning your gluten-free needs to party hosts so you can make sure at least one dish will be gluten-free.

However, the goal is not just to survive over the holidays, but to thrive! Sticking to a gluten-free diet can be a lonely road, and the holidays are the time of year where your differences can seem starker than ever. What to do?

Find Some Gluten-Free Friends

The best way to survive the holidays without falling off the gluten-free bandwagon is to find and invite other gluten-free people into your life. Other gluten-free eaters will totally understand your gluten-related stresses. Sometimes it’s just enough that someone is willing to listen.

We all know that it is easier to go on a diet or stick to an exercise goal when our friends or family members do it with us. The same principle applies when it comes to staying gluten-free. Spending time with other gluten-free people can help strengthen your resolve and also make you feel part of a larger community.

Where to Find Other Gluten-Free People

Well, if you happen to be single, why not kill two birds with one stone and find a new gluten-free best friend who can also be your little cuddly wuddly bear at the same time? Check out and start looking for a new romantic partner in your area today.

Already in a relationship or so not ready for a new romance right now? We get it. isn’t your only avenue to find gluten-free friendship. Check out the Gluten Intolerance Group. This online platform not only includes tons of great information about the gluten-free community, but you can also find and join local GIG groups, which hold meetings, events, and fundraisers to advocate for the gluten-free lifestyle. You are sure to find some great friends in these groups. Join a local group today, and stay strong during the holidays!

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Jun 21 2016

Does Online Dating Make You Mean?

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Never forget that there’s another person on the other side of the screen. Photo via Visual Hunt

If you’ve tried out online dating for any length of time, you’ve almost certainly been on the receiving end of what I’ll call, “the disappearing act.” Someone catches your eye. You message them, and bingo! they respond back. The two of you send a few messages back and forth, and you start to feel those first fluttery butterfly wings in your stomach. …And then nothing. Poof. Your Prince of Princess Charming is gone. He or she doesn’t respond to your next message or the one after that. Your new budding relationship is over before it started, leaving you feeling frustrated, angry, and self-conscious.

Internet dating, for all of its conveniences, also puts us at a distance from the people on the other side of the screen. When you’re messaging someone who is only a profile and a few pictures to you, it is much easier to walk away without a second thought. You would never stand up in the middle of a first date and walk out of the restaurant without a really good reason, but many of us do the equivalent all the time online. The thing to remember is that the person on the other end of the messages is a real human being with real feelings. I think it’s time that we buck the trend of the disappearing act and try to add a little more kindness to the realm of online dating.

Respectful First Message

The first step towards creating more civility online is to stop it with all the gross, objectifying come-ons. Every girl appreciates a compliment, but if every first message you send is something along the lines of, “Hey girl, when can I slap that fine booty?” you are going to reel in a lot of nothing. Worse, these types of pick-ups are just icky. A simple hello and a quick question related to that person’s stated interests from their profile is a great way to kick off a new message.

Don’t Disappear

It’s fine not to respond to a first message from someone you aren’t interested in, but if you start a conversation with another single, then you officially owe them an explanation if you decide to bail. You don’t have to give a long goodbye or even the whole truth. It can as simple as sending them a quick note that you have become too busy at work and can’t focus on dating right now or that you started seeing someone and want to give that relationship a try. This at least doesn’t leave the other person forever miffed at what went wrong.

Stick it Out Through the Date

Sometimes a person can come off as brilliant and suave online or over the phone, but the reality is something completely different. Even if a first date reveals that your hot new dating prospect is ten years older and 20 pounds heavier than he implied and that his great job is actually kind of a freelance thing he does after he gets home from his fast food shift…try to stick it out. Leaving in the middle of a date or cutting it short is a cruel thing to do to someone else. Consider this an opportunity to meet someone new, try out some icebreakers, and put one down to experience. Of course, if your date is a true monster, it’s okay to call it quits early.

Avoid the Slow Fade

A lot of people, especially my fellow millennials, have developed the habit of the slow fade. You aren’t really interested in someone, but instead of just ending the relationship, you answer their texts less and less often, find excuses to turn down dates, and finally stop responding altogether. Those who use the slow fade technique will claim that this saves the other person’s feelings. I call B.S. on this excuse. The slow fade is a cowardly and/or lazy move that allows the fader to avoid the difficult breakup conversation. Being on the other end of a slow fade is confusing and hurtful; much more so than a quick and polite breakup. Be a confident person and show your partner respect by letting them know up front that you don’t think a relationship will work between the two of you.

Handle Rejection Maturely

Rejection happens to us all, and it can be extremely painful, especially if you don’t see it coming. As hard as it is, try to accept rejection with maturity. If your ex tells you upfront instead of playing the ghosting or slow fade game, then they are doing you a solid. Don’t make the process more difficult by throwing a tantrum or lashing out. After all, the online dating world means you have more people than ever to choose from. Give yourself a couple of days to drown your sorrow with your favorite brew or ice cream flavor of choice, and then get back up on that dating horse!

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Jun 07 2016

It’s Okay to Start Online Dating Slow


If you need to take online dating slow…then take it slow. Photo via Visualhunt

You love the idea of being in a sizzling, fun relationship, so why can’t you find the time to write that killer profile? Why do you keep putting off answering messages from interested singles? You know that you have to strap into the dating rollercoaster if you want that relationship your dreams. However, that doesn’t mean online dating has to become your new full time job or that you need to book a date every night of the week. You can dip your toe into the online dating waters and take it at your own pace.

Why Online Dating Is Scary

There are a lot of reasons why online dating may feel overwhelming, scary, or just plain weird. Maybe you’ve never tried online dating before, or you’re still hurting from the breakup of a long-term relationship. Many others have trouble sticking with online dating, because they simply feel pulled in too many directions. Work just picked up; a celiac health crisis put you on your back for a week; you’re trying to get your band off the ground.

All of these reasons are valid, but they don’t have to keep you from finding true love. Here are a few tips to help you tackle online dating…at your pace.

Make Small Goals

Just because you sign up for an online dating service doesn’t mean you immediately have to drop all your evening plans and fill them with dates. If you look at online dating as a zero sum game, it may feel too intimidating to even start. Instead, create small, reasonable goals that you know you can hit. For example:

  • Check messages once a day
  • Send three personalized messages a week
  • Go on one date a week

When you look at online dating as a series of small, no-pressure steps, it seems a lot more doable, no matter how busy you are!

Take Your Time Getting to Know Someone

If your heart is still mending from a serious relationship, or if you feel like you just don’t have time to squeeze tons of dates into your already overbooked schedule, don’t freak. If you meet someone interesting online, you don’t have to make dinner reservations the next day. Instead, spend some time messaging, so you can get more comfortable with each other. When it feels right, exchange phone numbers and switch to texts and calls. If this person is as awesome as they initially seem, you might forget all about your ex and somehow find room in your schedule for a meet.

The bottom line is don’t bow to pressure from the other person to meet right away if you don’t feel ready. That is a recipe for a disastrous date. The right person will be just as into you as you are in them and will know that you are worth waiting for.

Don’t Date if You Aren’t Ready

There is a big difference between someone who simply needs to take the dating road a little slow to get acclimated and someone who truly isn’t ready to date. If, even after setting small goals, you still can’t bring yourself to message interested suiters back, then it just probably isn’t the right time for you to be dating. Don’t waste your money on a dating service or string any unfortunate singles along. It’s okay if the time isn’t ready quite yet. Figure out what’s getting in your way; whether it’s your schedule, your emotional readiness, or both. Maybe you just need to finish up a stressful work project or let time heal old wounds. You can always jump back into the dating pool in the future when you are truly open for the right person to sweep you off your feet.

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May 17 2016

Should You Be Tested for Celiac Disease?

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Your doctor can perform a simple blood test to see if you have indicators for celiac disease.

For a disease that can so drastically harm an individual’s quality of life — and even cut it short! – celiac disease remains stubbornly difficult to diagnose. In fact, one resource suggests that an estimated 95% of Americans with celiac disease haven’t been diagnosed. Do you experience common symptoms associated with celiac disease or have a close family member with the disease? It may be time for you to get tested.

Why is Celiac Disease so Difficult to Diagnose?

Autoimmune diseases, like celiac, are notoriously difficult to diagnose. Unlike a straightforward disease like the chicken pox, celiac doesn’t present with clear-cut and consistent symptoms. When your immune system is out of whack, your symptoms may wax and wane and present in all sorts of different ways. It is easy to overlook consistent fatigue as too much job stress or to blame an episode of diarrhea on irritable bowel syndrome (IBS).

Many people with celiac disease don’t present symptoms at all, or their symptoms are not debilitating enough to raise a red flag at the doctor’s office. Even when a patient IS experiencing significant symptoms, celiac disease is often misdiagnosed as lactose intolerance or IBS.

When Should You Be Tested for Celiac Disease

Too often, a test for celiac disease is a last resort after symptoms become extreme and all other tests and treatments have failed. I’ve read far too many stories of people who suffered with the terrible symptoms of celiac disease for years longer than necessary, simply because their doctor never thought to test them.

If you are experiencing any of the most common symptoms of celiac disease, you should consider asking your doctor for a test. Remember, everyone experiences celiac disease differently. You may experience some, all, or none of these symptoms and still have celiac. Additionally, just because these symptoms go away doesn’t mean the disease is gone. Celiac is incurable.

Common Symptoms of Celiac Disease:

  • Regular episodes of diarrhea (especially after eating gluten)
  • Weight loss or difficulty putting on weight
  • Anemia
  • Chronic or regular episodes of fatigue
  • Depression
  • Constipation

Autoimmunity also has a strong genetic link, which means you are at an increased risk of celiac disease if someone in your immediate family has celiac disease or any form of autoimmune disease, including: rheumatoid arthritis, psoriasis, or Hashimoto’s disease. According to Quest Diagnostics, you have a one in 22 chance of having celiac disease if an immediate family member has also been diagnosed.

Get Tested for Celiac Disease

It is impossible for you to know if you have celiac disease until you get tested. Fortunately, the available tests can answer this question with finality. The first step is usually a blood test (most likely a tTG-IgA test). If this test indicates the possible presence of celiac, your doctor will then likely biopsy the small intestine, which can confirm the diagnosis.

Don’t be afraid to ask your doctor for the initial blood test, especially if you have a family history of autoimmunity. Not every doctor understands celiac disease or how contrary the symptoms can be. Sometimes it is up to the patient to be their own best advocate!

* Note: In case it wasn’t clear from the lack of “MD” after my name, I am not a doctor. This article represents my opinion, not medical device. If you think that you might have celiac disease, only a licensed physician can make that diagnosis. Speak with your doctor.

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May 03 2016

I Tried Out a Gluten-Free Resort and Here’s What I Thought…

Written by GlutenfreeSingles Co-owner Marcella Romaya

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I was so excited to take my first trip to a gluten-free resort.

Living the gluten-free lifestyle can be a challenge even on your home turf; now imagine how hard it is when you’re in a strange place, don’t know any of the local restaurants, and may not even be able to translate the menu! For someone like me who lives with celiac disease, going on vacation is like skinny dipping with sharks!

That’s why I was so thrilled when Lesley Hock, an amazing travel agent, invited me on a five-day trip to an all-inclusive, gluten-free resort in Cancun, Mexico. Imagine, a vacation where I didn’t have to worry about accidentally eating gluten and spending my time abroad curled in the fetal position on the bathroom floor. Plus, Cancun! I told Leslie to sign me up.

My Trip to a Gluten-Free Resort

My destination was the El Dorado Royale Resort, which was every bit as beautiful as

Gluten-free meal at El Dorado Royale Resort

Just one of the amazing meals I got to enjoy at the El Dorado Royale Resort in Cancun.

you would imagine a Cancun destination to be. The resort sits right on the beach, so you can catch a tan next to the crashing waves. Unfortunately there are concrete barriers next to shore, which makes swimming difficult. They are building the world’s largest artificial reef in Mexico to restore valuable habitat for marine life. I didn’t let that stop me from having fun! You can also enjoy a dip in the pool and swim your way up to a poolside bar and ask for a gluten-free cocktail.

My favorite amenities, however, were the meals, amazing presentations from all eleven restaurants, and excellent service from the staff. On the very first morning of our trip, the gluten-free group met at the Santa Fe Restaurant, where the entire staff and the chef greeted us. All I can say about that incredible breakfast is – Yum!

Leslie kept our group busy throughout the days with a long list of activities. Some of them were typical of a Cancun vacation, like pool volleyball, garden tours, and my personal favorite – pool-side yoga. Other activities were tailored to our group, including private gluten-free cooking demonstrations and gluten-free cocktail events.

I got to work on my tan and learn some nifty new gluten-free recipes. Pretty cool!

Meeting a Gluten-Free Superstar

Marcella Romaya and Dr. Alessio Fasano

Me and one of my gluten-free heroes, Dr. Alessio Fasano.

The very best part of my trip was the opportunity to meet Dr. Alessio Fasano, MD, Founder and Director of the Center for Celiac Research at Massachusetts General Hospital. He is also the author of the book, Gluten Freedom. I attended a private dinner event where Dr. Fasano spoke and then met with him one-on-one for a consultation about my gluten-free lifestyle. I learned a lot!

Ready For Your Gluten-Free Trip?

If you are like me and often feel so worried about traveling that you wonder if it’s even worth doing, then consider taking a gluten-free vacation at El Dorado Resort. Shoot an email to my friend Lesley Hock at Travel Leaders at, and she will give you some great trip ideas.

Donate to find a cure

Finally, if you are interested in supporting Dr. Fasano’s efforts at the Center for Celiac Research at Massachusetts General Hospital, you can make a donation at:

*Please be cautious when traveling to Mexico; always go with a group when leaving the resort.

*Please read El Dorado Resort reviews before booking a vacation at the resort.

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Apr 19 2016

Michael Pollan Thinks That Gluten Might be a “Social Contagion”

Published by under Diet,Gluten Free

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Is gluten really a social contagion? Photo credit: jasleen_kaur via VisualHunt / CC BY-SA

Michael Pollan, the well-known food journalist, author, and activist once surmised that the gluten-free craze might be a “social contagion” in a free-wheeling interview on HuffPost Live in 2014. You may know Pollan from his blockbuster book, The Omnivore’s Dilemma or his strong advocacy of the slow food movement. He has studied food and the American diet long and hard, and he isn’t exactly sold on the gluten-free trend.

In the interview with Josh Zepps, Pollan casts doubt on the value of a gluten-free diet, though he does make an exception for people with celiac disease. “There are people who feel better when they get off gluten,” he tells Zepps. “It may have to do with the fact that maybe they’re getting off carbs.”

Why is Pollan so suspicious of the gluten-free movement? “The number of people that are genuinely gluten-sensitive cannot be growing as fast as the market niche is growing,” he proclaims.

Instead of focusing on cutting gluten, Pollan advocates for a diet that avoids as many processed foods as possible. He points to the fact that many gluten-free eaters turn to highly processed gluten alternatives. “Some people get off gluten and then they get onto this highly processed gluten-free category,” he says in his interview. “Look at the ingredients in those gluten-free products. I mean, it’s a lot of xanthan gum and a lot of food additives that, I don’t know, I wouldn’t want to eat.”

Is Gluten Really a Social Contagion?

Pollan brings up some interesting points in his interview. Certainly the number of people who claim to be gluten sensitive has skyrocketed over the past few years, and food producers have rushed to keep up. In many ways, the social contagion accusation might be accurate. Hearing about a close friend who discovered she had a gluten sensitivity may make you begin to wonder if your own gastrointestinal symptoms are related to gluten. More awareness of a condition usually results in more diagnosis.

Could the same thing be happening with gluten sensitivity?

Pollan also makes another good point, which is that processed gluten-free food is not necessarily a healthy alternative to its gluten counterpart. Gluten-free cookies are still cookies, after all. Even on a gluten-free diet, you need to pay close attention to what’s in your food. If you want to eat healthy, the best way is to consume fruits, vegetables, and lean meats. Perhaps you might even want to try more fermented foods, which Pollan raves about in his interview! “I really fell in love with fermentation and working with these microbes, which are just so miraculous,” Pollan admits.

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Apr 05 2016

Dating Red Flags – How Does He Treat Other People?

Published by under Dating,Relationships

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Is your boyfriend a jerk to waiters? Consider that a big red flag! Photo credit: Steve Parker via / <a

Surely you’ve heard at least one horror story from a friend who seemingly found the perfect guy only to discover a few weeks, months, or even years into the relationship that he was actually a complete and utter jerk. Don’t let this happen to you! (Or don’t let it happen again if you’ve been down that ugly road before.) We all put our best face forward when we start dating someone new, so how do you know if the great new guy you’re dating is really as awesome as he seems? He probably won’t come out and just tell you all of his character flaws. (That’d be pretty interesting though, right?) Instead, you need to keep your eye out for red flags, those little flashes of personality that show his true self. One of the best ways to find out if your new hottie has a heart of gold or is just giving you the smarmy smile of a politician is to see how he treats others.

Waiters, Grocery Clerks, and Parking Attendants

Observe how your guy treats the service people around him. Does he bark orders at your waitress and then switch to his puppy dog eyes when he looks back to you? Does he mock the grocery clerk’s hairstyle, ignoring the fact that she might be a single mom trying to stretch a tight budget? Does the parking attendant get a warm thank you or a complete brush off?

It’s easy to ignore or abuse people in low-end customer service positions. The way your date treats these individuals can go a long way toward showing if he’ll step on people when he knows he can, or if he is truly a considerate person.

If your dude turns into a minor despot if there’s a smudge on his fork, you can bet he’ll eventually turn his Napoleon complex on you after the ardent obsession phase has worn off.

Should he Stay or Should he Go?

If your date treats other people like crap, seriously consider cutting the cord right now. Soon enough you could be on the other end of his tirade or hurtful comments! is full of other cuties who are sure to be authentic and more respectful than that poser!

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Mar 22 2016

When Should You Tell Your Child That She has Celiac Disease? …Right Away, Duh!

Published by under Celiac,Gluten Free

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Did a mother do the right thing by hiding her daughter’s celiac disease diagnosis? Photo via

In the first paragraph of her article published in the Washington Post on Feb 8, Susan Stillman explains, “…there are times when I feel like a little less knowledge never hurt anybody.” Sure, I’ll give her that. I really don’t want to know the full details of my dad’s colonoscopy or how many calories are in the meal I just ate at the Cheesecake Factory. However, certain knowledge is kind of important to know, such as the fact that you have a serious medical condition that could eventually kill you if you stick with your current diet.

The title of Susan’s article is, “How I told my happy, healthy daughter about her medical diagnosis.” This title is mostly a lie, because Susan spends a majority of the article explaining how she actually didn’t want to deal with telling her 11-year-old daughter about the diagnosis. What did her daughter have? Celiac disease, a condition where the consumption of gluten slowly destroys the lining of the small intestine.

Just to be perfectly clear, if Susan had done even minimal research on the disease, she would have discovered that gluten can seriously harm the small intestine of a person with celiac disease even if they are asymptomatic, like her daughter. Perhaps she may have also run across the countless stories of adults who suffered for years with horrifying symptoms, like terrible stomach cramps, constant diarrhea, severe anemia, exhaustion, and malnutrition before FINALLY getting a diagnosis of celiac disease.

Anyone who has had to suffer the symptoms of celiac disease and struggled for years before receiving a diagnosis would have considered it a blessing to learn their diagnosis as a child. Susan, on the other hand, only considers it to be an inconvenience, mostly for herself. She writes, “Countless well meaning people tried to console me…I appreciate people’s kindness, but the truth was, I didn’t want to deal with it.”

Ignorance is NOT Bliss

It may have been easier for me to feel sympathy for Susan if she could reasonably claim ignorance, but then she had to go and write this:

“My husband runs an association of gastroenterologists and I told him, ‘I want you to search far and wide and find me a doctor who says we can blow this off. Our child is perfectly healthy and asymptomatic.’ I had no such luck. They told us that while children with celiac who eat gluten can appear to be fine, doing so continuously can cause damage in the longer-term…”

Susan has no excuse for keeping this diagnosis from her daughter (who is not healthy, by the way, if she is celiac and eating a gluten-rich diet). Yet, defying all wisdom, professional medical advice, and her duty as a parent, she withholds the information while her daughter is at summer camp and then during a subsequent family vacation. Only several weeks after the diagnosis when her daughter actually asks her about the results of all the tests, Susan finally fesses up.

Don’t Withhold Vital Medical Information From Your Children!

This should really go without saying, but less knowledge CAN hurt somebody if that knowledge is the diagnosis of a serious condition. As a parent, it is your duty and obligation to care for your children, and that includes steering them away from harmful behavior even if they aren’t showing severe symptoms right away. After all, I bet Susan wouldn’t let her 11-year-old daughter take up smoking, right?

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Mar 08 2016

Dating Red Flags – Is Your Girlfriend Moving Too Fast?

Published by under Dating,Relationships


Is she already planning the names of your future babies?

Girls certainly have a reputation for wanting to move a relationship forward a lot faster than their male companions. (Or is it just that guys like to drag their feet?) However, we’ve all heard the horror stories of girls slamming down the accelerator and horrifying her date with talk of marriage, kids, and shared retirement plans on the first date. Certain girls fall in love quickly and want to lock it down as fast as possible. If you aren’t the type for love at first sight and a Vegas marriage in front of Elvis the next day, keep your eyes open for these five red flags that your girl is moving too fast.

  1. She lets it slip how much she wants to have kids

At a certain point in their lives, some women simply go baby crazy. They want to have a baby. The need to have a baby, and these overwhelming maternal instincts can lead to a desperate round of dating in search of good father material. If you were hoping to travel the world and spend the next ten years playing video games in your boxers on the weekend, steer clear of any girl who drops the B-word a dozen times on the first date.

  1. She wants you to meet her parents right away

Meeting the parents is an important rite of passage and usually comes around the time you start letting lose with the boyfriend/girlfriend descriptors. If she invites you to meet her parents after the second or third date, especially if this involves a flight to another state, you’d better believe that she thinks things are serious between you two and that you are potential husband material. If you don’t feel the same way, it’s time to have a talk.

  1. She already has a drawer at your place

Staking out a drawer is an important symbolic step in a relationship. It demonstrates a sharing of your space and the expectation of regular visits. It is also, in many ways, a warm-up to moving in. If she starts leaving her things over your house, this is her attempt to move the relationship up a rung on the serious ladder.

  1. She’s hinting that she wants to move in

Is she asking for a key to your place, or does she regularly mention how convenient it would be if the two of you lived together? She may even make the argument about how much money you’d save if you both lived together. No matter how much she wants to move in, you have to be on board too. Don’t give way if you don’t feel completely comfortable with your relationship. Breaking up becomes much harder and messier when her clothes are hanging in your closet and your towels are all mixed in together.

  1. She talks like marriage is a sure thing  

The number one clue that your girl is trying to lock you down is that she regularly talks about your married future like it is a sure thing. Listen to the way she talks to friends or how she discusses the future. Are you always the assumed husband by her side, and is she already making plans for you both several years into the future? This means she is on the marriage path. If you aren’t on that path too, then don’t let her keep this fantasy alive. If she isn’t willing to slow things down, then it might be better to end the relationship before her fantasies of future marital bliss become so entrenched that you risk real heartbreak if the relationship doesn’t work out.

Always, communication is the foundation of a healthy relationship. You each have to know where the other person is in the relationship and what their expectations are. Simply asking your partner if she is happy with the relationship as it is, or if she wants things to be more serious can help you both work through the issue together and get on the same page. This way, you don’t have to get the shock of your life when you open a drawer looking for your socks and find her huge wedding plan binder!

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